A Great Lesson on Stress…

glass of waterA young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience with a raised glass of water. Everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, ‘half empty or half full?’… She fooled them all …. “How heavy is this glass of water?” she inquired with a smile. Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied , “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm.  If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “and that’s the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.”

“As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden – holding stress longer and better each time practiced. So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night… Pick them up tomorrow.

1  Accept the fact that some days you’re the pigeon, and some days you’re the statue!

2  Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.

3  Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.

4  Drive carefully… It’s not only cars that can be recalled by their Maker.

5  If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

6  If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.

7  It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.

8  Never buy a car you can’t push.

9  Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won’t have a leg to stand on.

10  Nobody cares if you can’t dance well. Just get up and dance.

11  Since it’s the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.

12  The second mouse gets the cheese.

13  When everything’s coming your way, you’re in the wrong lane.

14  Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.

16  Some mistakes are too much fun to make only once.

17  We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.

18  A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

19  Have an awesome day and know that someone has thought about you today.

AND MOST IMPORTANTLY

20 Save the earth….. It’s the only planet with chocolate! I THINK !!!!

 

Author – Unknown

The End Game Plan

GPSThere are so many strategies singles use when looking for their potential mate.  They may have  requirements, deal breakers, chemistry, personality, height and weight restrictions, even geography (lives close to you).  Many singles think of many of these things as they are speed dating, blind dating, or simply checking out other singles at a singles mingle.  But what about destination?

Destination?  What Do You Mean?

Where are you going in life? What is your ultimate destination?  After all, if you don’t know where you are going in life, how do you know if your potential mate is going the same way?  Part of REALLY knowing yourself is knowing what you want out of life; knowing your purpose and/or what you are most passionate about; knowing the end game plan; where you want to end-up.  If you don’t know, you may have already experienced a relationship or dating scenario where you thought things were lining up nicely (good chemistry, good personality, no red flags) only to break-up in the end because you didn’t realize the other person was heading a completely different direction in life.  They had a completely different end game plan.

Your Internal GPS

Awareness is the first step to remedy this loophole in your ‘ironclad’ singles strategy.  You see, we cannot address things that we are not aware of.  Now that you are aware of its’ importance, do you know your end game plan?  Consider your vision of the life you want to create for yourself.  Where are you at?  What are you doing?  What kind of person are you doing it with?  What does life feel like there?  What does it look like, smell like, taste like, sound like?  Write it down!  Write the story of your vision for your life with all of the senses.  Be as descriptive as you can.  Holding the vision in your head is not good enough.  Honor your vision with the written word.  Writing it down makes it more real; more clear; more  likely to be manifested!  After all, you wouldn’t get in your car with your GPS system and assume it would just know where you wanted to go.  You need to program it into the system.  Now, your GPS will take you there in the most direct route possible.

Knowing your end game plan is not enough.  Programming it into your internal GPS system by recording it in written word will bring you there faster than you ever thought.  And, while you are on the way there, perhaps you might find your mate?  After all, you’ll be going the same way, right?

Destination

Destination Push PinI talk a lot about ‘destination’ in the workshops and group coaching calls I do whether it is in regards to Life Coaching or Relationship Coaching.  Why?  Because you have this precious life to live as you see fit.  You are the captain of your own ship.  Where you are at in life is a direct result of the choices you are making and where you are steering yourself in life.  If you don’t have a destination programmed into your internal GPS system, you are probably wandering around a lot in life; much like that squiggly gray line, you are likely finding yourself taking a lot of detours, going in circles, passing through a bunch of construction, and perhaps even stuck in the traffic of your own life all because you don’t know where  you are going.

Let me be clear.  Once you define your destination, it doesn’t mean that your life will look like that attractive straight red line.  After all, you are still steering your own ship and sometimes you will make the choice to pull into port to take a rest, or circle back to that place you happened to stop in.  What’s the difference?  The difference is consciously choosing versus allowing your subconscious to steer your ship!

If you know where you are going in life, it makes it so much easier to say ‘No’ to the things that don’t line-up with your destination.  Consider this metaphor:

You determine that your destination is (metaphorically speaking) San Diego.  Why not?  They’ve got beautiful weather, mountains, ocean, beaches, etc.  So, you set your sights on San Diego and start making your way there from wherever you are.  On your way, a friend stops you and says, “I’ve won tickets to New York!  Come with me!  We can see Broadway plays, visit museums, and eat some fabulous food!  What do you say?”  So you think about it.  The old you, the one without a destination, might just go to New York and have a great time, wandering around not sure where you should be going from there.  The new you easily says, “No thank you!” because you know it will be a BIG DETOUR from the place you REALLY want to go; your ultimate destination in life; the place that you are passionate and purposeful about!

Stephen Covey says, “It’s easy to say NO when there’s a deeper YES burning inside!”  Maybe it’s time to Find Your Deeper YES!