Denver, Here I Come!

What a difference a month makes!  It just goes to show that you never know what might be waiting for you around the corner!

What the ‘Unknown’ became

Since I last wrote about the ‘Unknown regarding Denver, things began to fall into place.  I found a tenant for my townhouse who started their lease on October 1st, I found an apartment in the Denver area that lets a lot of that Denver sunshine in, friends helped me move furniture and pack my pod, and I have started some clients with the new Singles Relationship Coaching I just added to my practice!  Writing all of this to you from my new mountain paradise leaves me more than excited for this new chapter I am creating here in Denver.

The Challenges

Now, while it all sounds like sunshine and roses, let me be clear that while everything fell into place, it was not without its challenges; mainly financial challenges.  For instance, an oil change for my car turned into fluid changes, inspections, etc., which meant hundreds of dollars instead of $30-$50!  Oh, and they said that I need new tires…all four!  (An even bigger chunk of change!)  Those bills hit me just before I left for Denver to find an apartment.  Once I got back from Denver, I was hit with major expenses for my town home; a new hot water heater and a new patio door.  Yes, let me go pluck some money from My Money Tree!

Truthfully, I really cannot complain.  I have a nice little apartment (and I do mean little) 15 miles outside of Denver.  While I am in my apartment, I have to remind myself that I am actually here in Denver however, when I drive my car to and begin to exit my subdivision, that view of the Rocky Mountains takes my breath away every time!

So, what does your paradise look like and are you ready to start moving in that direction?  Share your comments below!  Sometimes even writing something like that out on a public forum is a small step toward your dream!  Will you take that baby step?

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My Money Tree

The Challenges outlined in ‘Denver, Here I Come  and all of that money flying out the door started me on a path to begin changing my thinking about money!  I am a firm believer in the Law of Attraction so I took a good look at what I was REALLY feeling and thinking about money and noticed that I was being very fearful and holding my thoughts and feelings in a place where I was feeling a ‘lack of’ money.  YUCK!  I don’t like feeling that way and I don’t like having a ‘lack of’ money.  So, what do I do?

I began talking with friends about their feelings about money.  Unsurprisingly, they had very similar feelings so, we all started working on this together!  Here’s some of the new thoughts and new ways of looking at money that we shared with each other.  Now I am sharing them with you:

1.  Money is a tool
2. Money = Fun Tickets!
3. Spending money is fun!  (It REALLY is!)  🙂
4. When I pay my bills or hand cash over to a cashier I say, or think to myself, “Bye bye money!  See ya soon!”
5. When I receive money – “Hello money!  You’re back!”
6. When I receive money I need to begin thinking “What can I invest in?”  “What should I save this for?”
7.  I am a money magnet!

Now, I know that some of this sounds a bit goofy, and it is, but it works, if you stay focused on being positive about money!  For example, I was meeting a friend for lunch so that I could see them before I left town.  I was still feeling a ‘lack of’ money and feeling anxious about spending money on a lunch when I clearly should be more focused on saving it with my impending move to Denver,  but I felt it was more important to have that connection time with my friend.  So, I went to lunch determined to enjoy spending my money.  I even planned to say to myself, “How wonderful that I have the money to enjoy lunch with a friend.”  So, I went to the restaurant repeating this phrase in my head only to find out that my friend decided to buy me lunch!  Do you see how funny the universe can be?  This makes me even more determined than ever to change my thought habits around money each time I am doing any sort of transaction, discussion, planning, etc. around money.

I’ve also had set-backs regarding my thoughts around money.  For instance, during a discussion regarding my move to Denver someone said to me, “How are you going to pay for everything?”  At first, I thought, “They’re right!  How the heck am I going to pay for everything?”  It wasn’t until a day later that I became conscious of this thought and re-directed my thoughts and energy around money to be more positive.

I’m still working on what I should say or think when using my credit card because it simply has a much different feeling than cash or even a debit card!

What are your thoughts?  Do you have any limiting beliefs regarding money?  (ie: I won’t ever be a millionaire; I don’t need a ton of money; money is the root of all evil…)

Help us all out!  Share your comments below!  When you share, we all learn!

 

 

Inspiration is My Drug

I’m not going to lie.  The day I left the Chicago area was REALLY tough.  I had to say goodbye to my family and closest friends; the people who are closest to me; the people who support me and have my backside; the people who know me better than most.  I had to say goodbye and go to a place where I didn’t know anyone, I didn’t have a job lined-up, and a place where I have absolutely no support system.  I was balling like a baby!  It was physically painful and REALLY made me second guess my decision to move to Denver.  When I finally got the car packed and pulled out of the driveway, I had to force myself to remain focused on why I wanted all of this in the first place.  That, and I had to focus on my cat.  He thought we were going to the vet!

Iggy, my cat, whom I affectionately refer to as my ‘live stuffed animal,’ was literally on my shoulders behind my head in the car as we pulled out onto I-294 to head South.  It wasn’t until I hit I-80 (about an hour later) that I think he realized that he wasn’t going to the vet and he finally found a comfortable place and settled-in.  From that point on, time and distance melted away the awful feeling that I had just ripped my family apart from me, and began replacing that feeling with excitement and hope.

Iggy and I arrived at our new home after 2 days on the road and, after about a week, we were pretty much settled in.  I was in Denver about one week and putting away some of my serving dishes when I received a phone call from a former colleague.  She and I had worked together as business coaches in a group we formed called Unified Coaching Concepts.  The group still exists, but she and I had long ago exited the group to pursue our more focused passions.  For me, life & relationship coaching.  For her, being a yoga instructor.

Her phone call surprised me because we hadn’t spoken in about 1-2 years.  Why she called also surprised me.  It seems that my choice of moving to Denver (and being very public about it) has had her thinking about doing the exact same thing.  I had no idea she was following what I was doing, nor did I have any idea that Denver was something she would ever consider.  She wanted to know why I decided to move to Denver and how the move was going.  Well, the ‘why’ part was very simple…I did not want to become 80 years old (which I think will happen in the blink of an eye), look back, and regret that I never moved to the mountains.  I think that answer may have pushed her over her own fence.  We had quite a long talk and, while she was appreciative that I took the time to chat with her about her own impending decision to move, I could not hold back on the gift she had just given to me!

You see, inspiring others is my passion and, when she called, I was personally in that place of uncertainty.  You know, that little devil on my shoulder was whispering doubt into my ear all week:  “You’re too far away from family!  What are you going to do if you broke your foot and needed someone to help you?  How are you going to make ends meet?  Do you really think you can pull this off?”  Her phone call knocked that little devil right off my shoulder, silenced him, and reinforced my decision to move to Denver even more!  Inspiring others is my drug, and she had just given me a big, old high!  (Now, even though Colorado just made 1 oz. of pot legal, I have not indulged, and it was certainly not my reason for moving here.)

Thank you, my friend (you know who you are), for letting me know how my journey has influenced you.  Your phone call was a gift and I hope that you find the courage to step outside of your comfort zone and make a choice that is right for yourself; a choice that you won’t regret when you turn 80 and look back at your life wondering if you have done all of the things that you really wanted to do!

What do you want to make sure you have done by the time you are 80?  Share some of your bucket list items in the comments below.  Maybe your comments will inspire someone else!

Letters to My Soul

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dear Soul,

What a bumpy ride!  With all of the uncertainty, chaos, and change of plans, I have put you on the back burner.  I couldn’t look at you.  Looking at you meant that I had to face the fact that I have ignored you.   I feel I have let you down.  I haven’t gone for walks, meditated, attended yoga classes, journaled, or read much lately.  These are all things that  keep you and me connected, and the things that thoroughly nurture you, which makes me whole!

Have no fear!  I know that as I start this new chapter in my life, I will basically have a clean slate.  That clean slate includes putting you, my soul, at the top of the priority list.  As I construct my new daily schedule and begin to implement it, these things that I have neglected to do will be included in my daily life.  That is my new commitment to you!

With Love,

Laura

Conscious Dating for Singles

The more I coach my clients, the more it becomes evident to me that everything we do in life boils down to our emotions (whether or not we are conscious of them and how we navigate them) and our relationships (whether or not we are making conscious choices in our relationships too).

So it was no coincidence when I won the book, Conscious Dating, at a coaching conference I attended in June.  When I opened the book and began reading its contents, it made so much sense to me.  It was a book that would have been incredibly fantastic to have in my twenties when I was learning about myself and what I wanted/didn’t want in a relationship.  In fact, I enjoyed the information in this book so much that I decided to become a Relationship Coach for Singles.  Part of the certification process for this means that I have to experience the program just as my clients would, and coach my clients through the same exercises  I have experienced, which includes:

1.  Relationship Readiness Assessment
2.  Getting clear about the various areas of my life and what areas I would like to improve upon
3.  Uncovering my beliefs and self-limiting beliefs about myself, dating, and relationships, and how to eliminate the negative ones.
4.  Creating a Life Purpose and Life Vision for my life including what I want to Do, Be, and Have.
5.  Uncovering my relationship history and patterns
6.  Understanding what I have to offer to my ideal relationship and where I might need to step up to the plate!
7.  Determine my relationship Requirements (non-negotiable), Needs (can compromise), and Wants (would be nice to have).
8.  Screening, sorting, and testing potential candidates to see if they meet my Requirements, Needs, and Wants.
9.  Deciding what my boundaries are when dating and the different types or levels of relationship I am ready for.

The program was perfectly aligned with my value of walking the walk so that I can talk the talk!  If you are single and wish you had some of these tools to navigate the increasingly frustrating dating scene then check out the New Conscious Dating Program LifeQuest Alliance is offering!  It is perfect for the single who is ready to do something radically different!